The Perception of Permanency in Marriage

Is your marriage built to last?

Just take a moment and ask an honest question:  Is your marriage built to last? When you reflect on your life together with your spouse, do you believe that your commitment is for a lifetime?

Among many problems that couples experience, faulty core beliefs about one another are often the most significant. When faced with life circumstances, the culture’s belief that marriage is not a lifetime commitment is often triggered. Couples are vulnerable to the false assumption that marriage is temporary.  Perceptions often slowly drift until marriage seems justifiably like a short-term agreement.  Marriages that are built to last operate on true principles. One of these core values is that God created a design for marriage.  Therefore, there is a true “blue print” for how relationships work.  In God’s design, the marriage commitment is to be life long, no matter what we may encounter.

Your belief about marriage matters

The perception of permanency is a main ingredient in successful marriages. This belief of mind and heart drives behavior not only during extreme situations, but in everyday life.  If you believe that your marriage is permanent, you act accordingly. Unfortunately, if you don’t believe marriage is enduring, it guides frequent actions that eventually impairs your relationship.

Jesus teaches us to believe about marriage in this way:

Haven’t you read,” he replied,
“that at the beginning the Creator
‘made them male and female,’
and said, ‘For this reason a man 
will leave his father and mother 
and be united to his wife, 
and the two will become one flesh’?  
So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together,
let no one separate.
 
Matthew 19:4-6

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About the Author

Richard Hoffman Ph.D., L.P.C.

Dr. Richard Hoffman is the Founder and Clinical Director of Christian Counseling Associates (CCA), a leading faith-based counseling organization with over 85 locations across five states. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Dr. Hoffman specializes in treating depression, anxiety, trauma, addictions, and relational issues through a Christian worldview. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor in multiple states and holds several national certifications, including Board Certified Christian Counselor and Approved Clinical Supervisor.

In addition to his clinical work, Dr. Hoffman serves as President of the Foundation for Christian Counseling, which expands access to faith-based mental health services. He also teaches internationally and has served as an adjunct professor at several U.S. universities. Dr. Hoffman is passionate about integrating faith and evidence-based care to strengthen individuals, families, and communities.

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